How to Conquer Complaining
By Pastor Ray Dare
Human nature tends to look at all the bad things in life, all the negative things.
Our society is this way; the focus is on all the bad things that are wrong. Bad news makes the headlines. But God says Christians are to be different. “Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe.” Philippians 2:14-15
It is possible to short-circuit God’s blessing in your life by complaining. Complaining was the sin that kept the Israelites out of the Promised Land. God destroyed them in the desert. Why? Because they griped and complained. That’s how serious this sin is to God; it kept them from God’s blessing.
The Promised Land represents God’s best for our lives today. It’s possible to miss God’s best for your life by allowing yourself to get caught up in the downward spiral of complaining. It’s a negative mindset that must be avoided.
So, how do you do that? How do you conquer complaining? Here are three ways...
Recognize it as sin. Confess it and ask God to help you conquer it. How much time do you spend griping, grumping, complaining? You’ve got to admit it’s not right. Complaining isn’t just a bad habit; God says it is sin. It is serious and needs to be confessed.
Replace griping with gratitude. “No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NLT) Many people want to know what God’s will is…here it is. “Be known for your gratefulness not your griping.” When you learn to be grateful in spite of circumstances, that is maturity.
Refocus your thoughts. “So we fix our attention, not on the things that are seen, but on the things that are unseen. What is seen lasts only for a time, but what cannot be seen lasts forever.” 2 Corinthians 4:17-18 Positive people realize that God is in control. God is fitting everything into a pattern, and He has a plan beyond my problem.
Resolve to speak only in a positive way. “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29 The Bible says that one day you are going to give an account of every idle word you say. Replace your criticisms with compliments.
When you become a positive person, you become a witness to the world. “Shine like stars in the universe.” Philippians 2:15
It’s our dream to be a church with the reputation “That’s where positive people go!” Every time you show gratitude, see positive, speak positively, or give a compliment, you are spreading love and conquering complaining.
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New Beginnings Church
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